One of my Laurel friends recently posted how exhausted she is and I have to agree, I get a lot of the same exhaustion. People asking for stuff. It gets to feel like everyone wants a piece of me. People only call, write or message to ask me to do something for them. Teach a class, help me with this project, do my research for me, make something special for our event, etc. etc. etc. It’s not that I’m unwilling to help, or resent you asking, but it does get so very, very exhausting.
“But you like to sew!”
No, sewing is the necessary evil I must do to get the garb I want!
“But it would be easier for you than for me!”
Yes, because I’ve done it more I suppose. But it would be easier for YOU if you did it more, why not now? 🙂
“But you’re so skilled! I could never do it like you!”
Thanks. But it is STILL WORK. Even things I like doing, like drawing or creating, are still WORK. It’s time I could be spending sitting on my butt watching Star Trek reruns, or making something for me or a project I’m excited about and want to do.
The thing is, that pit of need is endless. I could do it for you, give you this, give you my time, my materials, my expertise, but it will never be enough to fill the void and will leave me with nothing.
So please, respect that my time is limited, my attention is limited and just like you I occasionally like to spend a day NOT accomplishing things. If I do help you, appreciate it as the gift that it is, and don’t ask for more from me than you are willing to give out yourself. (And if you are willing to give everything, stop. Stop now. Re-evaluate. Don’t kill yourself to please others. It is NOT healthy!)